Failure + Girlfriends = New Directions at Age 66...

Feb 14, 2012 by

The meme of our time is failure.  In fact, the folks at the HARVARD BUSINESS REVIEW are all worried about Mark Zuckerberg’s leadership at Facebook since he hasn’t as yet failed and therefore not proved he has what it takes to come back Well, I got really lucky there.  In 2003, I lost it all, ranging from my executive communications boutique to my mind.  Nine years later, sure, I agree it was the best thing that happened to me. At the very least the fear of failure is gone.  That in itself breaks us open to using our talent instead of blindly following some rules we grabbed onto chasing success.  And that in itself is a lot. But it wasn’t enough to help me move out of hiding out inside myself.  The missing piece...

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Three’s A Charm …

Feb 19, 2011 by

This was an unprecedented Valentine’s Day for me:  I received flowers from three men.  None was a husband, son, or father…. “Geeze, this place looks like a florists!”  my friend Jay joked when he noticed two bouquets of red roses in my living room and the pink tulips he gave me in the bedroom. Had you told me, when I was 20, that this would happen to me at 50, I would have thought you were nuts.  Back then, I believed I was too ugly for even one guy, let alone three. Thing is, that wasn’t the case then nor now.  Sure, I’m not what mainstream media would consider the kind of woman who merits this much attention.  I’m no Demi Moore, that’s for sure.  (I could never afford that much plastic surgery.) Real...

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Recycling Valentine’s Day...

Feb 16, 2011 by

So, another Valentine’s Day has come and gone. Maybe this year you received something wonderful from the special someone in your life…maybe there is really not a special someone in your life right now. But maybe, you have some once wonderful Valentine’s Days artifacts from someone not so special any longer. Recently, I did an informal inventory of things in my house…things that I haven’t worn, used, looked at or even thought about for years. Many of these things were small and really weren’t taking up needed space but nonetheless could I really justify their existence in my house? Furthermore, would there be advantages to getting them out of my house and life? Would they have value to someone else? Ok, what exactly am I talking about? Mostly I am talking about gifts from...

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Valentine’s Day for 3 Please...

Feb 14, 2011 by

I am a freelance filmmaker.  I live alone, work from home–alone and can go days without hearing a human voice.  Sometimes I like this, sometimes I don’t. When I’m on a project, I find that I immerse myself to the exclusion of everything and everyone else.  Do any of you do that?  I get so caught-up in my own drama that I forget to live a little. And now it’s Valentine’s Day and I’m wondering how to celebrate.  Well, last night my sister and I made a fabulous dinner — fillets and lobster tails with herb grilled baby carrots, Caesar salad, mixed grains and an amazing bottle of Shiraz.  Never mind that my brother-in-law was also at the table, I was celebrating Valentine’s Day my way, with good friends. It doesn’t matter that I’m...

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All You Need Is A Little Love

Feb 14, 2011 by

Launching All The Single Girlfriends on Valentine’s Day somehow seems appropriate and a bit ironic. Valentine Day’s love is so often equated with “romantic love.”  However, love takes many forms. I was curious to know “what love means” to our Girlfriend Authors. Here’s what they had to say about love .. “Love” – it has meant so many different things as I’ve changed. For example, pre-feminist movement, as a Baby Boomer, “love” meant romance that would involve a ring and marriage. When that happened, I knew that “love” didn’t really mean that for me. I ran from that whole enchilada. Now that I have finally connected the dots on who I am – I will collecting Social Security soon – “love” means the ability to understand and live with myself. Madonna sang about it...

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Celebrating the Love in Our Lives...

Feb 14, 2011 by

Okay, I’ll admit it. Valentine ’s Day is one of those times when not being a part of a couple can be challenging. Sure, there are endless cards- from syrupy to snappy – honoring the other relationships in our lives – dear friends, special relatives, dependent pets, you name it, the marketers have it all covered. But when it comes to that special Valentine’s dinner and the meaningful gifts partners are meant to exchange,  a single woman can feel downright deprived unless she has a good strategy to stave off the voices in our heads (you pick the one whose words sting the most, I’ll spare you mine). And I am not about to spend a small fortune for some famous chef’s tribute to Cupid with one of my friends, or enter such pheromone-rich...

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