Tish Grier

My favorite saying: Nobody objects to a woman being a good writer, or sculptor or geneticist if at the same time she manages to be a good wife, good mother, good-looking, good-tempered, well-groomed, and unaggressive. ~ Leslie M. McIntyre
Like several of my friends (and soon-to-be-friends) on AtSGfs, the bio has vexed me for most of my professional life.  What can I say about it other than I wasn’t necessarily raised to have the kind of life that would warrant writing bios….

In the words of David Byrne “well, how did I get here?” Over time, I’ve imagined and re-imagined me many times.

Professionally, I am a freelance writer writes quite a bit on the impact of social media on the newspaper industry for Poynter.org here.  I am a social media strategist who has also been a professional blogger for a multi-national telecom, a thought-leader blog network and several noteworthy projects, as well as a community developer for Placblogger.com, Assignment Zero, and NewsTrust.

Personally, I’d consider myself a dating genius, for whom long-term relationships remain a mystery (although some friends would disagree on the latter.) I’m a fashionista with a knack for adaptting youthful looks for an older, curvier body. I love makeup no less than I did when I was 20, yet  know that the orchid eye shadow that looked great at 20 looks godawful at 40.   I also love books, and music, and travelling in the U.S.–yet harbor a strange aversion to chick-lit, folksy singer-songwriters, and anything that’s way too pink.  Including certain shades of lip gloss.

What brought me to AtSGfs is this:  there’s not much out there to help a single woman over 40 negotiate the world around her.  Not too many books or magazines or blogs with good advice on re-entering the dating world, or on re-imagining one’s career, or what it’s like to create a personal style that’s not something between dowdy-frumpy and inappropriately trashy.

Or, for that matter, what life might look like for her now that she’s no longer a bright young thing.  I believe it’s in sharing experiences and wisdom we’ve gained that we can begin to share our wisdom and experiences to help one another and those who will be turning 40 eventually….

Because whether we want it or not, 40 happens to all of us.  Just the way 20 did.   Only with a few more gray hairs, a lot more opinions, and the keen ability to say “no, thank you.”

I hope you will enjoy my posts.

Appreciate The Process

At the end of 2010, I suffered two heavy-duty losses—the loss of a job and the loss of my Father.  Both happened around the holidays, so I went into 2011 feeling the lossess just as intensely as if they’d happened that year. However, I had one major gain that has lasted me throughout the year, […]

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The Skinny on Wearing High Heels

Or .. how to wear high heels comfortably and without getting hurt. From the department store shoe department, to Payless and beyond, there’s one trend that is not going away any time soon:  high heeled shoes.  For a lot of us, this presents a fantastic footwear challenge.  Even if you don’t wear them all the […]

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Five Fashion Magazines Even Grown-Ups Can Use

According to most fashion and beauty magazine publishers, women “age out” of fashion magazines somewhere in their 40s.  By that time, we’re supposed to have grown up to “mommy mags’ like Good Housekeeping, Women’s Day, and Family Circle.  Or we’ve decided to go the route of Real Simple, Martha Stewart Living, or Better Homes & […]

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Dating By The Time You’re 40+ Part 2

Let’s be real. Dating at 40+ is different, and the same time, it’s pretty much as it was when we were in our 20’s. The difference now is that we (and he)  just might have a better idea of what we want .. or not. If you missed Part 1 (#1 It’s not all their […]

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Dating By The Time You’re 40+ Part 1

By the time we’re 40, we’ve gone out on a few dates for sure.  Maybe even in the double digits.  Sometimes we’ve come back to dating after a divorce or the end of a live-in relationship, or even an affair. By the time we’re 40-something/middle-aged/andthensome, we’ve probably read a lot of dating advice books, too. […]

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Three’s A Charm …

This was an unprecedented Valentine’s Day for me:  I received flowers from three men.  None was a husband, son, or father…. “Geeze, this place looks like a florists!”  my friend Jay joked when he noticed two bouquets of red roses in my living room and the pink tulips he gave me in the bedroom. Had […]

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