Appreciate The Process

Jan 4, 2012 by

At the end of 2010, I suffered two heavy-duty losses—the loss of a job and the loss of my Father.  Both happened around the holidays, so I went into 2011 feeling the lossess just as intensely as if they’d happened that year. However, I had one major gain that has lasted me throughout the year, and that is my weight. Oh, I completely understand that the gains came from a whole lot of comfort food.   Honestly, I don’t regret one single pound of it.  I relished every drink, every darned good meal, and every single red velvet cupcake with cream cheese frosting that crossed my lips and made their way to my waistline. Yet when I stare at my closet and see my wardrobe shrinking as a consequence of my expanding…..well….. About three weeks...

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The Skinny on Wearing High Heels...

Oct 12, 2011 by

Or .. how to wear high heels comfortably and without getting hurt. From the department store shoe department, to Payless and beyond, there’s one trend that is not going away any time soon:  high heeled shoes.  For a lot of us, this presents a fantastic footwear challenge.  Even if you don’t wear them all the time, and even if you do, before purchasing, be prepared to get the best fit and feel.  Once you get them home, make sure you can wear them for more than just that short trip or special occasion by practicing and stretching. First thing to consider is the best time of day to buy shoes.  Later in the day, after you’ve walked for a bit, is the best time. This is when your feet are a bit swollen.  If...

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Five Fashion Magazines Even Grown-Ups Can Use...

Sep 14, 2011 by

According to most fashion and beauty magazine publishers, women “age out” of fashion magazines somewhere in their 40s.  By that time, we’re supposed to have grown up to “mommy mags’ like Good Housekeeping, Women’s Day, and Family Circle.  Or we’ve decided to go the route of Real Simple, Martha Stewart Living, or Better Homes & Gardens.  Not that there’s anything bad about those magazines—they are, perhaps, not where we’re at in our lives. Or we could graduate to More magazine and Real Beauty.  Personally, I find these two a bit like the Chinese food of fashion and beauty mags:  they’re fine at the time, but forgettable two hours later. Yet there’s hope! Over the past year I’ve been reading fashion magazines like there’s no tomorrow. I didn’t read this many fashion magazines even when...

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Dating By The Time You’re 40+ Part 2...

Mar 10, 2011 by

Let’s be real. Dating at 40+ is different, and the same time, it’s pretty much as it was when we were in our 20’s. The difference now is that we (and he)  just might have a better idea of what we want .. or not. If you missed Part 1 (#1 It’s not all their fault and #2 Get happy with your life and with yourself) check it out and come back. 3.  GET HONEST WITH YOURSELF ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT RIGHT NOW. Stop thinking about what it’s going to be like when you meet his bratty seven-year-old.   Don’t think long-term or long haul—because if you haven’t got to the first drink, you certainly aren’t going to meet the kid.  Take a step back from all those anxiety-causing thoughts of how miserable you might...

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Dating By The Time You’re 40+ Part 1...

Mar 3, 2011 by

By the time we’re 40, we’ve gone out on a few dates for sure.  Maybe even in the double digits.  Sometimes we’ve come back to dating after a divorce or the end of a live-in relationship, or even an affair. By the time we’re 40-something/middle-aged/andthensome, we’ve probably read a lot of dating advice books, too. We’ve probably  read “The Rules,”  “He’s Just Not that Into You,” and the “Mars and Venus” series, hoping one of these books has the answers to why we just aren’t slick enough to fathom the male mind, sexy enough to entice the male body, and “perfect” enough to hang on to Mr. Perfect. Thing is, he’s not perfect, and you’re not perfect either, sister. Not to mention the all important, and simple reality that what we might want in...

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Three’s A Charm …

Feb 19, 2011 by

This was an unprecedented Valentine’s Day for me:  I received flowers from three men.  None was a husband, son, or father…. “Geeze, this place looks like a florists!”  my friend Jay joked when he noticed two bouquets of red roses in my living room and the pink tulips he gave me in the bedroom. Had you told me, when I was 20, that this would happen to me at 50, I would have thought you were nuts.  Back then, I believed I was too ugly for even one guy, let alone three. Thing is, that wasn’t the case then nor now.  Sure, I’m not what mainstream media would consider the kind of woman who merits this much attention.  I’m no Demi Moore, that’s for sure.  (I could never afford that much plastic surgery.) Real...

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